Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about fear and how I’ve been letting fear rule my life and the decisions I make and the ones I am too afraid to make.
The funny thing about fear is that often times, one fear keeps you from overcoming another. For example, I have the fear of being invisible, of not being seen. But then, I also have the fear of being seen for the wrong things, like making mistakes and being imperfect. I fear that my flaws are so big that good attributes I have are not even in the picture.
Now let me pause here. Have you noticed where those fears are coming from and whom they are centered around? Me and my ego. I’ve been so caught up with what’s going on inside of me that I failed to even think about those who could be judging me.
Are they really the kind of people that judge, that only see my weaknesses and not my strengths? Probably not. I honestly believe that the nature of humankind comes from a place of love and kindness. We want to see the light in others; we want to see the positive in the world around us. I know each and every one of us has been given this gift. So why do I automatically assume that they will only see the bad in me? It is because I have been overwhelmed with fear.
But even more important than focusing on those people who might or might not be judging me, the real concern is that I’ve gotten into the habit of looking across and not up. By that I mean I have been looking around at external sources for validation rather than looking towards my Heavenly Father for support and acknowledgement.
How often do we sit and compare ourselves to others or what we think others expect of us? Have we stopped to think about how we compare to the divine destiny our Heavenly Father has prepared for us?
Elaine Canon said “There are two important days in a woman’s life: The day she is born and the day she finds out why.”
We are here to discover our divine nature and live up to that potential.
But how can we overcome fear and become the woman we are destined to be? I believe that courage is the answer. Courage is doing what’s right, what is true, even though there might be repercussions. Courage is following the light and the inspiration that is within us relentlessly. Defying what others may think we should do and stand up for our own personal truth.
The strength to be courageous does not come from others around us. They might inspire us to take action but the only one who can actually take the step is us. We have the power to overcome our fears.
We live at a time where possibilities are endless but with those possibilities, there are also stumbling blocks and fears that may get in our way. Because of these blocks, we have decisions to make, decisions that will affect our destiny. Thomas S. Monson said, “…courage is needed—the courage to say no when we should, the courage to say yes when that is appropriate, the courage to do the right thing because it is right.”
We can help ourselves gain courage by being in an environment where it will flourish. By surrounding ourselves with light and inspiration. When we make an honest effort and work towards our goals and divine destiny we can feel courage come into our lives and begin overcome our fears. Creating an uplifting atmosphere is essential to our personal success in life.
Courage is not only needed in intense circumstances, but is needed in our every day lives. Courage to make decisions that determine our destiny and overcome that fear which might overwhelm us.
It takes courage and faith to “reach up and not across.”
Courage is needed to look towards divine guidance rather than external sources. It takes courage to trust our intuition, our personal inspiration, and ourselves. The more we practice using courage, the more natural it will become for us. Courage can heal fear and overcome it.
Each time we face a decision that we might feel paralyzed to make, we need to ask ourselves, “If I choose courage what is the worst thing that could happen?” Often times the answer is not the end of the world but something that is more manageable. By asking ourselves this question we are able to put things in perspective and begin to make a plan to accomplish goals.
Robert D. Hales has said that when reaching up for divine guidance, “[Heavenly Father] will help us know whether to fight, flee, or go with the flow of our unfolding circumstances.” What a comfort it is to know that we will be guided. Heavenly Father will lead us along. But are we willing to be led, willing to be guided to our divine destiny?
We need to make it a point to look up and not across. Reflect inward for guidance from that source of light that is in all of us and be open to what is in store for us and have faith in ourselves and in what we are meant to do.
Have courage to make the decision that you are most afraid of making.
Take a moment to write down some of your fears. Think about how these fears have been keeping you from your goals. In addition to your fears, write down how courage can heal and help overcome them.
Let me know in the comments below what fear you want to conquer and how courage can help you do that.